Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

I got a lecturer job in a well reputed organization after chasing this dream for 18 years. My husband stands beside me in this scenario. He allows me to do this job but unfortunately, my father in law is refraining me from doing this job. He is not allowing me. What to do in this case? It is so disturbing for me.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Jobs

08 Apr

ANSWER: If its a segregated working environment and you abide by the proper Islamic hijab then no problem in doing it since you got your husband’s permission. But if you teach men as well or mix with men, this is totally prohibited even if your husband approves it as it is prohibited in Islam! Your […]

I’m so much worried about my marriage. My father-in-law is step father to my husband and he keeps on controlling our marriage. I was silent till the moment. Now, I want to do a job and my husband has no issue about it. He allows me but my FIL refrains me from doing this job. It is a teaching job with good incentives. Kindly guide me shaikh what to do in this scenario

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family, Mahram

28 Mar

ANSWER: This man is not related to you and he is a non mahram to you and you must not mix or communicate with him. Stop all communications with him. Only your husband’s real father is your mahram. This man has no authority over you or your husband. If your husband is fine with your […]

My husband constantly wants me to spend time with his mother who is easily bored. I try from my end but my MIL is difficult and it is straining my marriage. She is always unhappy and complaining. He doesn’t let me visit my mother much as he wants me to spend time with his mother & doesn’t like my family. I’m always caught in the middle of a blame game. I don’t know how to keep her happy & busy.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

20 Jan

ANSWER: You are not obliged to entertain his mother or obey him in this. Simply be polite to her in the best way you can and call your mother on the phone in order to check up on her often without telling your husband.

I’m going to foreign country for my work. I’m married since 5 months. And my mom died 2 years ago. I live with my wife, my father and my little sister. And my 2 sisters are married. Should I take my wife with me to that foreign country or leave her at home to take care of my father. My wife is pregnant…

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

12 Jan

ANSWER: Of course you must take her with you! She is not your parents’ or siblings’ servant!

I recently got married and currently I am in the same household as my husband’s family until our own house is ready. My question is, am I allowed to remove my headscarf in front of my husband’s younger brother? Because if I’m not allowed to remove, it’ll be inconvenient for me to wear it 24/7 in house. Would like to hear your opinion.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws

12 Sep

ANSWER: This is totally prohibited. You must be in total hijab in front of him as he is a non mahram and it’s not permissible to chit-chat or socialize with him.

It’s been months I’m living away from my husband because his parents got involved in our small argument. we have a daughter who’s 1yo. He refrains from taking care of our daughter until I come back & listen to his parents & live according to their rules. Both of us have always been very respectful & dedicated towards his parents but they’re very controlling & over protective which affects our privacy & personal life.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage

24 Aug

ANSWER: They have no such rights, none whatsoever and they’re definitely sinful for this transgression! You have all the right in Islam to ask your husband for a separate accommodation. Your in laws have no say or right in this. He must fear Allah and give you your rights. However, you must be smart in […]

Sheikh this might sound stupid but I’m being serious. I see some people always arguing about this in Facebook. The man, his wife, and his mother goes somewhere in his own car. The man is driving, so who is more worthy to be in the front seat next to the driver? The mother or the wife? And why?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of the family

08 Aug

ANSWER: The mother should be in front as this is respectful and dutiful of him unless she prefers the back seat.

In a joint family do my wife has to wear the jilbab all the time or just if she dkes niqab it’s ok?if she wears a dress like gown(not as outer garment like jilbab but only a cloth where her bones curves are not visible) in joint family then is it ok?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Women clothing

09 Jul

ANSWER: Her in laws are like any stranger on the streets if not worse! She has to wear an outer garment along with covering her face when she is in front of non mahrams in a joint family system and neither she can mix with them.

I am married for a 1.5 year. Me and my husband are in long distance relationship which i do not like. He has gone to other country for job.I live with my in laws .I feel alone. Recently i had a miscarriage, since then i am depressed so much. I ask my husband to come soon.I can’t live like this.he calls me mad if i complain. Am i sinful if i dont talk to him?

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Fiqh of Marriage, Kind Treatment of Spouses

04 Jul

ANSWER: You need to weigh the consequences of your actions and consider your options and what you want from this marriage. If you behave in a certain way while he is away from you, he could easily consider divorcing this woman whom he has no children from and she is causing him and his family […]

I have been married for 12 years. My in-laws have always been mentally and physically abusive to me and my 2 kids. Just last years my marriage was on the verge of divorce,Since then me n my kids have not kept any relationship with my in-laws n alhamdulillah everything is goin great. But past few months my husband is insisting me talk to my in-laws but I fear doing that.

Dealings and Attitudes with In-Laws, Dealings and Attitudes with Relatives, Halal/Haram Matters, Pedagogy education and upbringing

14 Jun

ANSWER: It’s not obligatory upon you at all to maintain ties with your in-laws. However, it’s mandatory upon your kids to maintain ties with their paternal family, you have no right whatsoever in stopping them from meeting their grandparents and uncles and aunts etc.

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